Beating

Mental or physical intimidation

Hazing activities and/or processes are extremely hard to minimize or categorize. It's the only way for some students to get into the particular fraternity or sorority that they want. However, the student?s best defense is to know how to handle situations before they arise.

This is where parental education comes in, particularly parents who have been "through the process" when they went to college and do not want their children to have to do it. Teaching their children their rights and how to handle the situation that may go beyond the limits of what they want to do may get them out of a sticky situation. Your child, or you, may want to avoid the situation altogether and will need to learn how to negotiate with the hazers. Your child does not need to lose the respect of his or her peers during the process. Use your good judgment when you teach your child about college.

Teach your child about safe partying.

Most social activities in college do not simply mean joining the Glee Club or the Computer Club. Partying is a major part of collegiate life on weekends and sometimes on the week nights. Talk to your child about drug and alcohol use and what it will do to them. You may not be able to stop your child from experimenting, but you could have an influence on the outcome. Teaching your children how to have a good time without drugs or alcohol should be a primary consideration. If you find that they are partying, don't try to stop them. Rather talk to them about what safe partying is so they can be safe and still enjoy college life. Here are some ideas:

* If they are going to host a party, speak to their neighbors so they will know when it is going to be and how long it should last.

* Parties do not need alcohol or drugs. When they create their party theme ask them to create it without the thought of drugs or alcohol included.

* Follow local fire laws and make sure they are aware of how to put out simple fires should they occur or call 911.

* Call 911 in the event of an emergency and have a clear access path to the party area.

A party can be safe and fun if you take the precautions early and teach your children what to do and how to do it.

There are some dangers in and around the campus and dorms.

Many college students, especially freshmen, live on campus. They must know what to do in an emergency and be able to call campus security or other help. They must learn the local resources available to keep safe. Here are some helpful hints:

* When walking around campus be sure to follow the most well lit path available.

* Stay in groups; there is safety in numbers.

* If your child is forced to go out alone make sure he or she tells someone where they are going and when they will be back.

* Take some type of protective device with them.

* Use good judgment when walking or jogging. Wearing headphones means you will not be able to hear what is going on around you.

* When back in your dorm, always lock the doors and windows before going to bed for the night.

College life should be one of the most incredible experiences of a child's life, it was for me. Make sure your child is taught safety and planning so he or she will enjoy the experience inside and outside the dorm.